Derrick and Rachel Harper are the authors of Making Things Happen. After becoming overwhelmed in their careers, caring for three children, and having decline in health because of their busy lifestyle, their intimacy took a toll on their relationship.
After many discussions with failed expressions and comprehension of communication and zero affirming actions, they knew it was time to stop doing the same thing over and over while looking for different results.
They instead sat down with one another, fully explained what each needed to feel intimacy and to their surprise it was everything OUTSIDE the bedroom. They realized intimacy occurs outside the bedroom FIRST before it happens inside the bedroom.
As educators and, Rachel, a trained counselor, they fully researched intimacy and determined their own pain points and how they could effectively have their needs met. In doing so, they created the 2-step Plan of Intimacy.
They took the 2-step Plan of Intimacy and used it intentionally. They followed the 2-step Plan to a "T". Not only did it require them to learn a new way of communicating, but it allowed them to affirm each others' feelings and make intimacy a priority in their relationship
Today, they are teaching others how to make intimacy a priority in their relationships.